Your Favorite Sex Position?If you want a very sexy experience but a slow build-up,. a relaxing way of making love that allows real bonding with your partner, and - when the time comes - with powerful orgasms, this is the one for youThe side by side sex position (aka "the spoons")
This is truly affectionate and caring sexual position. It conveys the fact that you care about your partner, that you love them, and that you want intimacy as well as sexual gratification. There is no other position which can be so intimate, and so useful for reconnecting with your lover - and that's especially true for men, who may also find that this position allows them to exercise much greater control over the speed at which they reach orgasm. As a couple proceed more slowly with lovemaking, they can express their love by caressing, stroking, kissing, taking, and looking into each other's eyes to really "see" each other - an advantage which few other positions have. For example, the man on top position certainly allows mutual eye-gazing, but a man may be so carried away with his instinctual responses (thrusting and racing towards ejaculation) that he forgets his partner's needs to some degree. Here, he will feel less pressure on his penis, but she will almost certainly get just as much pleasure from him being inside her - it's the perfect match! Furthermore, neither partner's body weight is supported by the other person, which gives freedom of movement and the opportunity to reach down and around, letting you fondle the sensitive parts of your lover's genitals. Once you're in the side by side position, it's possible to keep your chests facing each other but to vary the distance between your bodies, which allows you to experience full body contact, no upper body contact, or anything in between: this makes kissing then relaxing back again, for example, easy. It's such a stress-free position! Don't knock it because it seems boring. You don't always need the hurly-burly of the rush of thrusting and pelvic rhythm to shake your worlds. Sometimes, less is more! And, if you happen to be close together, then kissing is easy; if you separate your bodies, you can stroke breasts, chests and bellies; either the man or the woman can fondle her clitoris, while it's possible for the woman to lift her upper leg so that both of you can enjoy different views (and feelings) of penetration. That's delicious! It's the flexibility which makes this position a winner, and it also happens to be an ideal position for pleasuring a woman, i.e. bringing her to orgasm So how would you change it for even more variation? In fact there are several ways in which you can add pleasure. To start with, if aiming to "rock and roll" side by side, why not begin in the man on top position, which means all you have to do is to roll onto your sides. But decide which way you're going to roll first, then as you go over, make sure that one of her legs is over his upper thigh, with her other leg under his lower thigh; and it essential that she has her legs high up, so that as he lies between them, she's comfortable, and it feels as if she's sitting in his lap. You can see what mean in the second photograph above; the fourth and fifth photos also shows this position, but you can't see her lower leg in the fourth one as it's beneath her partner's thigh. As you can see from the other photos, it's also possible to adapt side by side sex positions by having one of the woman's legs stretched straight out. This can produce some very pleasant variations on the feelings you get; only by experimenting will you find out what feels good for you. try out different variations and positions until you are both comfortable - and in particular until her legs are in the right place. You may find it takes a some time and trying to get this exactly right, but you'll also find that lovemaking can go on for as long as you want. And because the build-up tends to be much slower, the climax, when it arrives, can be much greater in intensity for both partners. There's much less force on the man's erect penis, so a man who tends to premature ejaculation may find that after he has entered her, he can go on thrusting gently - perhaps with small breaks - for much longer than normal. In addition, when you both lie still you'll be able to experience a wonderful flow of sexual energy and an energetic connection that can be very profound when you're connected in this position. Here's another hint - it might be easier to enjoy lovemaking if the man positions his arm around his partner's shoulders or back so that as he pushes into her when he thrusts he can also bring her body towards him; another possibility to make thrusting somewhat easier is for her to wrap her lower legs around his buttocks to provide leverage so she can hold him tightly as he pushes in. This is a very good sexual position for those who are less able bodied. An alternative to facing each other is to lie with your faces in the same direction, i.e. have the man's chest up against the woman's back. The man can spoon her - cuddling up to her back with his penis sliding in between her buttocks as he penetrates her. This is a good position for men with a long penis, since penetration is limited, and it's also fun and exciting to see the entry of the penis into her vagina so clearly. you can use this in the morning when you wake up or in the evening before you go to sleep, and perhaps also to finish off a hectic session of lovemaking with a more relaxed finale....you can see many more variation of what constitutes a veritable Kama Shastra or Kama Sutra of lovemaking here on what appears to be a new site, or a development of an established one.
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