Your Ideal Sex Position Is.....For you, it's man on top sex - but with a little bit more adventure Something safe, emotionally connected, familiar and well-known, but with a twist - something that offers endless variations on an old theme, something that adds a dash of passion to a very popular sex position: and gives you the chance to experiment while you enjoy the sexual roles you know and love. Sex that uses some of the endless variations of positions and posture to make sex a bit hotter, a bit more passionate...There's plenty of emotional connection and a romantic feel to this old favorite. And, after all, there are plenty of other exciting sex positions you can use when you're in the mood for a bit more raunchiness! Nothing beats the intimacy of man on top sex - especially when you adapt it so it gives you both the greatest pleasure possible....and here's how you can do that.
When Kinsey did his pioneering work on human sexuality in the 1950's he discovered many Americans had never enjoyed sexual intercourse in any position other than the man on top! This emphasizes how man on top was the acceptable face of sex for previous generations - the way respectable men and women (i.e. married couples) had sex! But don't let this fuddy-duddy image put you off.....for the missionary or man on top position is one of the most enjoyable and exciting ways to have sex for both men and women. Sure, there may be times when you want a rip-roaring session of raunchy bedroom fun, but for the average love in, man on top is the way to go. It's an easy position to use, and it suits almost everyone. The best way to enjoy it is to start by having the woman lying on her back with her legs apart and knees bent. This way, if you're the man, and you have any trouble getting your penis into her vagina, she can put a hand down and help guide you in - a much better solution than poking at her vulva in the hope that you might find her opening (that level of incompetence and naivety is something women hate!). If you hold yourself up on one arm and both knees, you can caress much of her body - this is illustrated on other pages (see the menu below). Adding spice to this position is all about knowing how to adapt it for your greatest pleasure. Altering the angle and height of her legs can add a huge amount of stimulation for both him and her: even to the extent that if a woman is near orgasm before the man penetrates her, it's actually possible for him to enter her and take her over the edge into her climax with the power of his desire, and the sexual energy of his thrusts. And since his most erotic parts are in such close contact with hers in this position (and that's more than having his erect cock inside her - for example, his scrotum also slaps sexily against her perineum and anus with each thrust of his hips), he can feel every bit of her sexual energy in this position. That means his arousal feeds hers, and vice versa: if she's on the edge of climax when he enters her, the sensation of her vagina tightening around his manhood as she reaches the very edge of her orgasm can take them both into the most glorious climax imaginable. This is the true blending of love and sex - the ultimate experience most lovers crave! Try bringing her legs back and up, or altering the position of her knees - or even having one leg raised while leaving the other on the bed, knee bent. A cushion under her pelvis will alter sensations for both partners because it changes the angle of penetration - this will produce delightful pressure on spots that may not have been getting much stimulation before. The adjustments you can make by having the woman bring her knees up and back also lead to deeper penetration. If the woman hasn't experienced much in the way of deep penetration so far during intercourse, it's worth taking it slowly. The vagina is usually not more than about five, at most six, inches long, and even though the cervix moves upwards to allow thrusting to take place underneath it into the back of the vagina during states of high arousal, it's very easy indeed for a penis of even average length to hit her cervix during lovemaking. Some women find this an unpleasant and uncomfortable experience. And while most women find they can tolerate more pressure on the cervix the more aroused they are, this is by no means certain, so you should always take care during the early stage so sex to rein in your wilder instincts! For a small minority of women, thrusting against the cervix during state of high sexual arousal can lead to a very powerful orgasm. You can see from the pictures above that man on top is a position that also enables the man to practice the art of kissing! With soft kisses, passionate kisses, or tongue in mouth kisses, the partners can stimulate passion, show their love for each other, communicate the intensity of their desire, and add yet more to the exciting stimulation that man on top sex can offer. The gentle probing of tongue in mouth will get harder as sex proceeds and the couple are overtaken by desire -- partly because there's an obvious parallel between the penetration of tongue into mouth and penis into vagina. But kissing doesn't have to be limited to the partner's mouth: even though the man's access to her body is somewhat limited in this position, he can still kiss her neck, head, shoulders and breasts if he raises himself up on his arms. Kissing in man on top sex is about provoking sensuous responses from your partner, about knowing how to please a woman in bed, and raising the level of sensuality, passion and sexual excitement - and perhaps even taking you both to a simultaneous orgasm. Man on top sex is a great way of conveying tender warmth and love to your partner while making love in a way that shows each other how sexy and erotic you are, capable of turning each other on, yet at the same time taking your own pleasure to the full. And for women who want to feel dominated, perhaps even "taken" by their man - this is a great way to express the fully feminine side of their personality: being dominated by your lover in the man on top position doesn't mean being passive sexually! She still has the chance to move, to respond to her lover's hips thrusts by making pelvic thrusts of her own, to speed up his climax by moving faster, and to add extra pleasure for both of them by trying that most exquisite sexual move of all - the pelvic squeeze, whereby she grips his penis as he pushes inside her, tightening her vaginal muscles around him as he sinks into her. That's a route to sheer ecstasy! For women who are inhibited about showing their naked body, the man on top posture does have certain obvious advantages! When the couple are in a close embrace, they have all the intimacy of full body contact, but her body is not exposed to his gaze -- it just feels good to have him pressed against her. That's another way to start sex - just snuggle together, not necessarily even kissing. Letting your energy flow together as you snuggle brings a feeling of intimacy and closeness which can get him erect and her lubricated - perfect preparation for what is to follow. Moving into the man on top posture allows him to continue his lovemaking: he can see her body - at least until he plunges deep into her and brings his body down closer onto hers - and he can kiss, fondle and exercise his masculine power as he pushes deeper into her moist welcome. If he wants to make sure she keeps up with him as he speeds towards his climax, the man can slip his hand between himself and his partner and feel for his partner's clitoris to give her some extra stimulation; he may need to shift his body slightly to one side to do this, so that he can fully reach her sensitive spot. If you're a man who wants to try this, remember it's best to use your thumb, with your palm facing downwards, and make short strokes at the same speed and rhythm as your thrusts. And, as always, remember that you don't want to over-stimulate her clitoris, since it will lose all sensation - take it gently, with firmer pressure as she nears orgasm. See more variations of the man on top sex position and all others, too, for that matter, in this modern Kama Sutra - an updated version of an ancient text on human sexuality. The best way to ensure that your massage of her clitoral area is successful - that is, it raises her arousal rather than acts as a dampener on proceedings - is to ensure that you have enough lubrication: either her natural moisture, or saliva, or some artificial lube, is fine. You might also want to avoid direct touch on the clitoris to start with, caressing up and down the side of the clitoral shaft before moving nearer the clitoris itself as she becomes more aroused. And to give her another thrill, you might also want to stimulate her breasts by caressing and stroking them as you plunge into her inviting warmth and wetness.
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